The Best Blowjob Positions & Tips for Mind-Blowing Pleasure
With Steak and Blowjob Day getting closer, there’s no better time to brush up on your oral sex skills. If you want to send him to another planet when he climaxes, these spicy techniques are sure to make his eyes roll back in pleasure. From the build-up to a sloppy BJ to blowjob positions and finisher tips that will have him begging for more, we’ve got your back. So start grilling up that steak, and let us help with the rest!
Start oral foreplay…outside the bedroom
Many consider oral sex to be foreplay, but it can certainly be the main act. Leading up to it, consider sending a sexy selfie, text, or audio message telling them all the dirty things you can’t wait to do with your mouth. Describe what you want to do to them. Maybe send a snapshot of yourself licking or eating something like an ice cream cone or a banana suggestively.
When the foreplay does move to the bedroom, don’t be afraid to tease. Lightly run your hands over their body before moving on to some rubbing. Give them an over-the-clothes gentle thigh massage before moving to more sensitive areas, and then repeat it all over with the clothes off. Give them a trail of kisses from their lips or neck down to their penis to really drive them wild.
Of course, if you only have time for a quickie, rip their clothes off and get started!
Use a blowjob toy
No matter what blowjob positions you try, adding a blowjob toy or oral sex toy into the mix can make for a more exciting experience. In fact, it's one of our best oral sex tips. To do this, you’ll want to apply lots of lube to the penis beforehand. Using a warming masturbator like this stroker from The One can feel delightful, especially when alternated with the warmth of a mouth.
Use the toy on your partner when you want to take a breather or take things up a notch. High-tech, automatic strokers have different features that rotate, suck, and vibrate. Manual versions of blowjob sex toys, on the other hand, let you control the pressure and sensation using your hand.
If you don’t want them climaxing on you or in your mouth, consider giving them an intense finish using a toy that they can climax into. Either that or use your hand to cover the head of the penis as they ejaculate. If you want to try to experience a simultaneous orgasm and can handle a bit of multitasking, go for it! You can use a sex toy to pleasure yourself while giving a BJ, whether that’s a vibrator, a clit sucker, or a blowjob toy.
Give them a blowjob in lingerie
Humans can be very visual creatures, and we all like a little something extra to look at. So why not put on a bit of a show? There’s nothing like a POV blowjob in lingerie… and this is something you can infuse into your foreplay as well.
Put on your favorite lingerie, be it a bra and panty set, a babydoll chemise, or a cheeky body stocking. Dress up for your significant other and watch their eyes feast on your body.
How to give a blowjob
- Assume the position of your choice
- Start with small kisses and licking the head.
- Use your hands - wrap your hand around the shaft or use it to play with their testicles, gently cupping them.
- Move onto the shaft, giving long strokes with your tongue. When you get to the head, swirl your tongue around in circles. The head is where many of the nerves are located
- Start slowly and gradually go faster, increasing pressure (remember, no teeth!)
- If you sense they’re close to climaxing, keep your rhythm and maintain what you’re doing.
Pro tip: Make eye contact and moan or dirty talk to turn him on further and show you’re enjoying yourself.
If you talk to your partner beforehand and they give you consent, you can even slip a lubed-up finger in their ass or use an anal toy.
Don’t be afraid to ask them about their preferences to learn about their likes and dislikes, which will lead to an even more mind-blowing experience.
Use your lips, not teeth - avoid a British blowjob!
According to Urban Dictionary, a British blowjob is when you give a blowjob with a little too much teeth, making the experience uncomfortable for the receiver. While some people might like teeth (pain can be a pleasure, after all), unless they specify, avoid this.
To give a no-teeth blowjob, pull your lips over your teeth like you’re sucking on an ice lolly. Take your time and go slowly. Perhaps your partner likes light grazing. Instead of assuming, talk to them about this beforehand.
How to deep-throat
If you’re struggling because of a gag reflex or with back teeth scraping your partner, keep things shallow at first. A non-vibrating cock ring can help act as a buffer, and if you use a vibrating ring like the Screaming O Disposable Vibrating Cock Ring, it can provide even more sensation for him.
It’s easier to avoid gagging if he doesn’t trust you and allows you to move. Once again, it is important to communicate before the act!
You can always practice with a dildo beforehand to get used to the experience and bypass the gag reflex.
Our GoodHead™ Deep Throat Spray is designed for this purpose. It acts as a gentle numbing agent that desensitizes your throat and makes it easier to deep-throat - spray it into the back of your throat for a minty flavor. Keep in mind that this should not be used with condoms or barriers since it contains castor oil. Our Flintts Mints, which come in various flavors, can also combat dry mouth.
Don’t be afraid to get sloppy
This is not a place to worry about being neat and tidy. Some of the best blowjobs are sloppy blowjobs. While you can alternate with little pecks, don’t be afraid to get wet and sloppy.
Drink lots of water beforehand and let that saliva drip. Standing might be one of the best oral sex positions to start with a sloppy BJ and get things nice and wet. Don’t swallow up your spit - use it!
You can add lube to this experience to help you up the sloppiness, especially if you have a dry mouth. Flavoured lube is a fantastic choice that can make giving head more exciting for the giver. You can even place some lube between your breasts and squeeze his dick between them.
The best blowjob positions
Whether you’re giving your first blowjob or your hundredth, several positions can make deep-throating and BJs better for both the giver and receiver. Oral sex can be the main event, and these spicy positions prove it. Let's dive into some of the best positions for oral sex.
Want to include a bit of BDSM in your session? Or perhaps play around with power dynamics? Read on to see the best fit for you and your desires.
Submissive vs dominant positions
Submissive positions
If the receiver wants to take on a submissive role, kneel on your knees or allow the giver to push you down while they’re standing. If you consent and enjoy it, you can also let them wrap their hands around your hair and control your movement. To add a BDSM element into it, let your partner cuff your hands behind your back or tie them up with rope, which will create an even more submissive experience.
Dominant positions
If you want to dominate the person you’re giving a blowjob to, push them down so they’re lying on their back. You can also cuff them or tie their hands to the bed to add a twist with restraints.
Standing
The person with the penis can stand, while the giver can either kneel on their knees or on a bed. If you struggle with knee pain, you can sit in a chair. You can also lay on your tummy when you give oral control, but this is one of those oral positions that might limit your mobility and how much control you have. Standing gives the receiver a bit more dominance.
The lie-back
This will involve some neck flexibility and might trigger the gag reflex. It also gives the receiver less control over the moment, making it a submissive experience for the receiver. Here, the giver lies on their back with their head hanging off the side of the bed. The giver stands at the edge of the bed, entering their mouth and throat to mimic regular penetration.
Sitting
King’s Chair
Here, the receiver can sit on a chair or couch. The giver can kneel in front of the partner on the ground or sit beside them on the couch. However, it’s worth noting that this will require added mobility since the giver will need to twist their body. The kneeling aspect offers a subtle power dynamic, giving the receiver an edge of dominance.
Laying down
Missionary
This is a great position for beginners. Here, the receiver lies on their back, and the woman faces him directly. It doesn’t require a huge amount of flexibility and can be performed on a bed, but it is still sexy. That says, the receiver can only really touch your head, so you can’t mutually pleasure each other here.
The Pivot
This is basically missionary, but the giver pivots 90 degrees so they are perpendicular to the receiver. This gives the receiver a nice view of your body from a sideways profile, especially if your bum is sticking up in the air. It allows them to rub other body parts and even stimulate erogenous zones, providing both people with pleasure.
69 or Face Down Ass Up
69 Allows you to mutually pleasure each other, while “Face Down, Ass Up” still allows the receiver to lay on their back while the other partner kneels over them with their bum in the receiver's face, giving them a gorgeous view.
Kneeling
Doggy Style
This position is best done on the bed so both parties are comfortable, but a soft rug will work, too! Here, the receiver kneels on their hands and knees while the giver kneels upright. This is a great way to lead into penetration or take a break from penetration to mix things up. Here, the giver can also thrust a bit with their hips.
Consent and safety tips to consider
If you’re not into it and want to stop, then stop! Just because the BJ portion of your playtime is over doesn’t mean it has to end. You can finish them off with a handjob, have them reciprocate in giving you oral, or move on to penetration.
If you and your partner haven’t both been tested regularly or are sleeping with multiple partners, use a condom to lower the risk of STI transmission. If you're wondering: "Can you get an STD from oral sex?" Yes, STIs and STDs can absolutely be spread through oral sex. Even if a penis looks healthy, an STI can be present without symptoms. To make things even tastier, you can use flavored condoms.
Practice makes perfect
Not all of us automatically enter this world a master of the blowjob. Only by trying out different blowjob positions and techniques (and talking to your partner about their preferences) can you improve this skill. There’s a whole world of exploration waiting for you and your partner.
Don’t be afraid to add these blowjob tips and different tools like sex toys and sprays into your arsenal. Do that, and you’ll nail the art of the BJ in no time at all!
Even if you’re giving your partner a blowjob as a special treat for Steak and Blowjob Day, a BJ should be a mutually satisfying experience. Remember that you’re in control, and there’s something incredibly sexy about having power over your partner’s pleasure. So dive in and enjoy that blowjob!
