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What Is a Fisting Toy?

By: Scarlett

What Is A Fisting Toy? A Beginner's Guide To Fisting Toys.

Beginner's Guide To Fisting.

What is Fisting?

Fisting is the sexual practice of using an entire hand for sexual gratification either vaginally or anally. Although it is not done by actually using a fist shape with the hand, the practice is usually carried out by making a pointed hand motion by joining the fingertips in a tapered shape. This can be extremely pleasurable because it creates a larger insertion than simply fingering, and is something that is often practiced within the BDSM and kink community. It is something that requires plenty of lubrication and communication between partners to ensure a safe and enjoyable experience.

 

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Why try fisting?

It is an exciting variation on foreplay.

Inserting an entire hand into the vagina takes fingering to the next level, stimulating the G spot and providing an excellent feeling of fullness for the receiver. The additional pressure on the internal nerve endings of both vaginal and anal fisting can be an intense sensation, and combined with the stretching feeling can be a truly thrilling sensation that can bring the receiver to climax without much movement.

Pushing boundaries from fingers to a larger insertion can also has an exciting psychological effect that can take foreplay beyond the simple 'warming up' exercise that prefaces sexual intercourse.

 

Going deeper emotionally as well as physically

The trust required when engaging in fisting means that it can bring partners closer together in the practice. Feeling someone so deeply inside of you, whether it is vaginally or by anal fasting, means that there is an element of vulnerability and so is an incredible intimate experience for both parties. Communication is vital at every stage to ensure that the process continues to feel good and so fisting is an experience that can only be shared between people who trust each other implicitly - and can result in supreme gratification as a result!

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Fisting Power Fist

Intense orgasm

As we mentioned, fisting stretches and stimulates the nerve endings deep inside the vagina or anus, and the pressure means that very little thrusting motion is required to achieve a truly amazing feeling. As the muscles contract around the hand, the feeling of the squeezing and relaxing alone can result in a huge orgasm. On top of that, the simple thought of trying something new and exciting can add a layer of excitement and tension to take your sex to new heights. 

Dominance

Asking a submissive to hand over all the power to their dominant partner elicits an excitement that is wrapped up in all kinds of psychological kinks. Seeing their partner in such a vulnerable position can be thrilling in a way that can be super satisfying when participating in dominance play, and can be an introduction to even naughtier sex. Learn more about the basics of BDSM here to get better acquainted with some kinky practices.

 

How to practice safe fisting

Lubrication for fisting.

Using lube is aaaalways a good idea during sex or masturbation, but even more so during fisting. Avoid any friction burns and tears by ensuring you have plenty of lube covering your hand or fisting toy before you insert it into the vagina or anus. Using a tingling lube can heighten the sensations of fullness and heighten the sensations.

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Warming up.

Engage in more forplay than normal and ensure that blood is pumping around the pelvic region by massaging, licking or touching to build the anticipation. 

Ensure that you have communicated complete consent before you try to engage in fisting to ensure that it's what you both want. There's nothing sexier than consent, and remember that you can stop at any point and consent can be withdrawn at any moment if it gets too much.

Dirty talking or reassurance can be a sexy way to warm up for fisting, both emotionally any physically. Be sure not to skip this step, as it can build not only anticipation but the trust between you both.

Techniques.

First of all ensure that your nails are trimmed and your hands are lubed up.

Slowly warm up the vagina or anus by inserting one finger at a time whilst stimulating or licking the clitoris or penis of your partner. Having this external pleasure can help your partner feel even more pleasure whilst receiving your hand or fisting toy.

Take things slowly and experiment with changing where you place the pressure. Communicate with your partner about what feels good and don't rush into trying to fit your whole hand it right away. They key here is to go slowly as to avoid any injury, and anal training can be a useful precurser to fisting.

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Positions while fisting.

Lying on the back.

The easiest way for the receiver to receive fisting practice is by lying flat on their back to get completely relaxed. Whilst their legs are spread and after plenty of foreplay, warming up and lubrication, the giver should make a 'duck' style shape with their hand. Then this can gently be inserted at a slow pace, enjoying the pressure and stretching sensations as you go. 

Kneeling.

The receiver can be kneeling or on all fours as they receive, as long as they are relaxed and turned on enough by plenty of foreplay before you begin the practice of fisting.

 

Aftercare after fisting.

Emotional support.

Fisting can be an intense practice, and aftercare is important to reassure your partner and to reinforce the trust that this type of practice requires. 

Physical support.

Whether vagina fisting or anal fisting, the muscles and skin may be sensitive or sore for a few days afterward, but serious injury will be avoided if proper practices are observed such as slow insertion and avoiding rough thrusting. Vaginal lube can applied afterwards to avoid chaffing or friction injury if required.