The best strap-on dildos for pegging

The word's in. Pegging is trending. The last five years have shown a dramatic rise in the sales of prostate massagers, strap-ons and other tantalizing tools for better anal play. If you haven’t jumped in, you’re missing out.

With references in cultural media like Broad City and Deadpool, pegging has become visible as a form of play that can bring explosive pleasure for anyone with an anus. Missed the memo? We’ve got you covered. Below, we’ll brief you on the what, why, and behind the hot art of pegging.  

What is pegging? 

Coined in 2001 by sex columnist Dan Savage, pegging is traditionally defined as the anal penetration of a penis owner by a vulva owner with a strap-on. This definition has evolved to be more inclusive. 

What defines pegging now is the use of a strap-on for anal penetration, regardless of the genders involved. Pegging can not only be seen as a sexy reversal of gender roles (who doesn’t love some hot role play?) But it can also be used to throw out gender roles, period. 

Despite the stigma that exists around it, pegging has nothing to do with your sexual orientation. It’s a potential way to access more pleasure and explore kinks that will ultimately leave you feeling more satisfied.

Why should you try pegging? For those with prostates, pegging can lead to mind-blowing orgasms. The prostate is a walnut-sized gland that sits between a male-bodied person’s penis and anus.

Located a few inches inside the rectum, the prostate is packed with nerve endings. Some people refer to it as the male g-spot. 
For those without prostates or “P-spot”, pegging allows for the stimulation of the thousands of sensitive nerve endings found inside the anal canal and entrance.

The giver, the person donning the strap-on, is in for a feel good time as well. The base can feel good rubbing against the clitoris or pubic mound while thrusting. You can also get creative like adding a vibrating strap dildo for extra stimulation and fun. You can also get creative like adding a vibrating dildo for extra stimulation and fun. 

Diki Vibrating Dildo With Harness

Diki Vibrating Dildo with Harness, £88.40

What's so great about using a strap-on? 

The benefits of pegging can also be emotional and psychological. For many couples couples, the penis owner traditionally holds the role of dominant and of being the penetrator. With pegging, these roles can be reversed which can be very sexy. 

Many vulva owners are aroused by the idea of taking on the dominant role. They can also explore being a submissive penetrator by letting the receiver ride them. This can be a unique experience for both parties. 

Pegging can also lead to increased intimacy. Penetration is often a very intimate, vulnerable experience. Different genders can experience what it feels like to be a receiver or a giver. A variety of positions can be explored. For vulva owners who are lesbian couples, a strapless strap-on dildo is a common way to stimulate both people.

Prostate and anal orgasms

What do prostate and anal orgasms feel like? Some describe prostate orgasms as the ultimate orgasms, allowing them to access a full-body experience.
While vulva owners often orgasm from G-spot stimulation, penis owners can orgasm not just from penile stimulation but prostate or P-spot stimulation. When stimulated, this sensitive gland can be the source of lots of pleasure and earth-shattering orgasms.

Some toys are designed for prostate milking. Prostate milkers are toys that create a “come hither” movement while massaged internally. The goal is to rub the prostate until prostatic fluid comes out. This is essentially cum without the sperm and is a precursor to a prostate orgasm. 

Don’t have a P-spot? You don’t need a prostate to enjoy anal penetration. Inside the anal canal, there are thousands of nerve endings. After that initial push, you’ll have access to stimulate the A-spot.

The A-spot or the anterior fornix erogenous zone. The A-spot is found two inches from the G-spot. The difference is each spot needs different types of stimulation. 
With anal penetration, you can indirectly stimulate the A-spot, leading to intense full-body orgasms.

Things to pay attention to when shopping for a pegging strap on 

Ready to strap up? We’re glad to hear it! To get started, you need a few basics: a harness, dildos for pegging, and lube, lots of lube. A good harness is durable, fits great, feels empowering, and makes you feel hot! 

Always start with foreplay 

Anal play can only happen when the person is fully aroused, so don’t go right for the butt without warming up first. Instead, take your time with foreplay. Rimming is an underrated art, and so is using your hands. Slip a finger or two in as the perfect intro to pegging. This can help muscles relax

Lube up 

This is the most important part of your pegging adventure. Remember to use water-based lubricant with silicone toys. Even though lube will help make for a smoother ride, remember not to start thrusting like crazy when you start. Always start slow and communicate with your partner.

How does a strapless strap on work? 

A strapless strap-on is typically worn by a person with a vulva. It works like a double ended dildo, but has a different shape. Think uppercase L versus lowercase l.
One end of the strap is inserted into the vulva, and by clenching muscles, it stays in place and stimulates the G-spot. The larger end is inserted into the person who is “receiving.”

Although many people enjoy strapless strap ons, they do require strong Kegel muscles. We’ll also be diving into options for harnesses. Some people can find that this pegging sex toy isn’t the most comfortable to wear.

In that case, a harness may be your new best friend. Here are some things to consider when choosing a strap on harness and dildo. 

Ouch! Silicone Strapless Strap-On - £39.05, 15% OFF

Type/style

Strap on dildos and harnesses come in a variety of styles and types. When choosing one, you want to make sure it meets your needs, your partner’s needs, and makes you feel like a rockstar. 

There are four primary styles of harnesses: jock-style, underwear, g-string, and even body harnesses that strap onto the thigh! You can also buy the dildo and harness separately or a strap-on set. The strap-on set includes the harness and dildo together.

If you’re a beginner, we recommend getting a strap-on set. This involves less guesswork and often includes instructions for newbies. 

Bikini Strap On and Silicone Dildo Set, £51.03

Jock-style 

The jock-style harnesses have two adjustable straps that you can wrap around each butt cheek. This style allows for a lot of control when maneuvering the dildo. This style is especially recommended for beginners because of how secure the hold of the harness feels. They often come in plus size options as well as regular sizes.

Underwear style 

Underwear-style harnesses are brief or boxer brief underwear. It’s important to have a snug fit with these as they aren’t adjustable, but they are practical and less confusing to fiddle around with.

G-string style

G-string style or one-strap harnesses have one adjustable strap that runs between the butt cheeks. The advantage of this style is the ability to feel the weight and movement of the pegging dildos being used. You can also use your hands to move the dildo to increase the pleasure if you’re the wearer.  

Body harness 

The body harness style comes in various materials and can be worn around the hand, thigh, chest, or other body parts like the face. This is a great choice for those with hip or back pain. 

Thigh Strap On Harness 

Thigh Strap On Harness - £27.74

Hollow harness 

A hollow harness is for people with penises. It comes in different sizes and is great for people with performance anxiety or erectile dysfunction. This one is supported by suspenders for added control

King Cock 10" Hollow Strap-On Suspender System

King Cock 10" Hollow Strap-On Suspender System - £77.35

Size

Strap ons are just like with any piece of clothing. It’s important to get the right size harness (and dildo) for your body. Before ordering your new harness, it’s a good idea to use a measuring tape to measure the size of your hips and/or any body part you plan to wear your harness on. 

Use a measuring tape to measure the circumference of your hips and/or other body parts and compare to the sizing chart available on the product. If you’re new to using a strap on dildo, consider opting for a smaller strap-on, which will be less intimidating. Then, you can move on to something larger if desired. 

Material

Materials like nylon and neoprene are waterproof and very easy to clean and maintain. They also tend to be stretchy and conform to the shape of the body. Harnesses made of leather require a more delicate touch but are durable and will last longer. They often come with a lifetime warranty, but faux leather options are available and more durable as well as easier to clean.

For dildo material, we recommend medical-grade silicone, which will be the most realistic option.

Comfort

Make sure the harness you choose feels good to your body. You want to have a secure strap on harness but not to feel restricted. When you’re done enjoying your harness, be sure to loosen only the straps that need to be loosened to remove the harness.

A harness cushion can also enhance comfort for the person wearing the strap on harness and can reduce pubic bruising.

Ove Dildo and Harness Cushion

Ove Dildo and Harness Cushion - £25.43